AT some point, you will catch yourself doing the first c. It takes quite a while with an intentional focus to move from c to C. Social media has even made c drive people to a place where they intentional celebrate the downfall of other people rather than make C. The c is comparison. Comparison often empowers others to drive your behaviour. I said often because sometimes comparison can be motivating rather than destructive. This c can range from genetic features like wishing to be as tall as the other person to things you wish you could do that others are more capable to do. Why allow comparison sap your energy when you can easily make Commitment to being your best self and in the process achieve results instead of pulling others down with you. There is room for all.
The features you are currently comparing are your average against the other person’s best features. Stop it. You can be and do anything but you can’t be or do everything. Other people are wishing they are where you currently are don’t forget that. Shift to the other C-ommitment because there is one thing you are better at than any other person and that is being you. Commit to being the best you. How you ask.
Visualize your future self. Is he or she kind and treats everyone with compassion? Is love the motivation for the things you do? Think about your perfect self, how does that future person think, interact, look like and what is s(he) capable of that you are currently not capable of? Set goals for yourself on your terms and tackle each at a time making sure there are SMART and aligns to your purpose here on earth.
With the daily implementation, you reach your goal one at a time and that brings you closer to being your best self. It is a marathon and not a sprint so stay the cause as the most important things in life are measured internally. Rather than allow your friends, peers or any other person at that be a mirror that you use to make a comparison, make them a mirror that pursues you to the commitment to be your best you.