A recent conversation with a friend brought to my attention that peer pressure does not end with high school or even university. Peer pressure can still affect your adult life if you are not mindful and intentional. Social media exacerbates it further because you can now see how far your peers have travelled and what is working for them. Oh, the unnecessary pressure we sometimes put ourselves under because of others. The pressure to do more … be more … get more done.
Truth is that some kinds of pressures are good and some bad. I work more when under pressure of a deadline. Wasting time is not an option in this context which makes me efficient. I never function well when pressured to be someone I am not nor do something that deep in my gut is wrong. The secret I have come to realize is to identify when pressure can be of benefit and when it is paralysing. The thing about pressure in any form is to figure out if it is coming from within you or outside. If it is from outside, decide if whatever the trade-off is, is worth it. Don’t put yourself under unnecessary pressure but at the same time don’t be mediocre. Just be.
The pressure you put on yourself to be like others will not help you. We are all unique in our own way and the creator designed us with a unique purpose. Don’t try to fit in due to pressure. Not everyone will get you but never let that discourage you from being yourself. The pressure you put on yourself to succeed whatever your definition of success is will not help you achieve success. I’m not saying that having high goals is unhelpful; having a vision for where you want to be and what you want to achieve is important. Yet, if you operate under the pressure of anxiety, you tend to see only problems. When you remain in a state of calmness, you see solutions. Stepping back is often far more helpful for me than turning up the heat.
Has it occurred to you that the anxiety and stress you put yourself from high-pressure tactic may actually be what is holding you back from being and doing more? Instead of putting so much pressure on yourself, you can always choose to motivate yourself through encouraging behaviour that is positive while still being goal-focused. Not everything in life needs to be faced with intensity lighten up and don’t take things too seriously. The moment you feel the pressure building, stop and breathe deep breaths. Taking time away from a problem can actually be more beneficial for finding a solution than non-stop deliberation. So check out for a while. Take a walk. Watch a movie. Go play a game. Spend some time in the garden. Do whatever helps you relax so that you’re refreshed and rejuvenated. You can be all you want to be without putting pressure on yourself. Wishing you peace, happiness and contentment on your journey to becoming your best self.