Where you are rushing to, I ask again. “You should be earning this much by this age”. “You should be married at this age. Is that not your mate?” These are some of the statements and question from parents and friends that too people under unnecessary pressure to achieve. That you currently are going 100 mph does not mean I must be going at that same speed too. A young man was last week indicted by the FBI for cyber fraud and the story inspired me to write a follow-up to my last week’s post on the need for integrity in a trust deprived continent (Click here to read).
It is safe to assume that the young man aspired to a certain way of life and pictured where and how he saw himself living but then acquired the picture using the wrong route. I recall when I finished high school and all my high school friends gained admission into university but not me, I started feeling this will cause a delay to the timeline of my big dreams. It is very ok to dream big, I dream a very big dream but then have the patience to build that dream from the ground up rather than comparing yourself to another person. Let me tell you something, you put for pace and whenever you try to outpace God’s grace over your life, you open yourself up for corruption and you fall into a trap.
We are all not the same. Some “make it” quite early, some later in their journey. Define “make it” for yourself and while at it, make sure your definition is grounded in strong values and principles and not the world’s definition of what making it in life is. While you are trying to be impressed by that Instagram picture, remember the person took several and only posted what they thought was best for the world to see. It’s ok if you want to impress but don’t fake it because that pressures you into stealing, lying and other bad things. Be you and be content with what you have now (that does not mean you should settle for less though, become your best self-daily by comparing your today’s results with yesterday’s) remember that while you are aiming higher, someone somewhere is aiming to be where you are right now.
You have been graced by God for a certain pace. Follow His timeline.Dr. Progress
Personally, it took me a while to arrive at a place where I am enjoying the pace God graced me with. You see back then, I will see someone I admired and wanted to have all their success. What was the success then, a lot of money, flashy clothes, latest gadget but as I grew older, read books, travelled and listened to people who had an internal compass, my perspective changed and I am still learning. The core of my dream is still there but I have gone through many detours in my journey. Slow but steady and I know I will get there with hard work and following God’s pace.
Don’t be in a rush to anywhere like the indicted man, having all money could buy, being on Forbes list, while deep down in his heart knew the foundation of his wealth was ill-gotten. No quick fix in life or shortcut because the shortcut today will become your shortcut to prison. If you are thinking no one can catch you in your wrong dealings, think again because its only a matter of time and you will be caught. No need to fear being caught if you are not doing anything wrong right now.
Whenever you feel you are moving out of your pace lane, reflect and think, this person whose success I am admiring, how did they get it? Is there a transparent way I can trace the source of their financial wealth? For organizations giving awards, what measures are you putting in place to ensure you are not pressuring people to be on this list or that list at any cost? Have you done enough to verify that the people gracing your pages are legitimate?
Never allow the perceived success of another person on social media to calibrate your standards and aspirations. Work hard and continue to build a legit name for yourself at the pace you have been graced for.